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When a woman gives away her power in the early days of a relationship, then she must be willing to accept the consequences.

One solution is to hold yourself back just enough that you stay clear-headed. If you feel yourself becoming overwhelmed by emotion around him, so that the stars in your eyes are obscuring your vision, excuse yourself. Step outside or use the bathroom. Remind yourself that although you're enjoying his company right now, you don't know him very well. Stay alert for any signs that there's something "off." Take what he says on good faith, but don't believe him blindly.

I'll leave you with a story about how one man, a self-confessed player who dated up to four women simultaneously, chose the women he would seduce. He admitted that he never was able to date "intelligent" women, because they would see right through him. He had the highest chances of success, he said, with women that seemed "clingy." In other words, women who liked him too much.

3. Don't let yourself feel embarrassed or ashamed around him.

This, you might think, is a strange recommendation. Why would a woman feel embarrassed or ashamed around someone she likes?

Shyness. The feeling that she's not worthy of him. Embarrassment about the explicitness of her fantasies about him. Anxiety caused by not knowing what she can do to make him attracted to her.

Need I go on?

Clearly, we can experience a number of uncomfortable emotions when we're in the presence of someone we like a lot. Our emotional discomfort will often cause us to act in artificially ways. For example, we may become brighter, more bubbly versions of ourselves. We may talk faster or in a higher-pitched voice than usual. We may flirt in ways that seem completely out of character.

Worst of all, we may avoid direct eye contact with him, because we're worried that he'll see through us into our hearts and discover the truth.

To be your authentic self around the man you like, you must not let feelings of shame or embarrassment keep you from feeling confident, genuine, and at ease around him.

For more information on how to do this, and how to overcome shyness, which is one of the biggest factors preventing us from approaching men that we like, visit my website! I offer a free newsletter series that includes articles on how to ask a man out WITHOUT asking him on a date, how to get more male attention, and how to get noticed if someone you like doesn't even know you exist.