How Men Think

This book from world renowned psychologist Mendell gives you a pretty good insight into a man's mind. It is useful to women who would benefit from knowing exactly how their male counterparts think at the work place.

When you are working with gender differences in any kind of professional capacity, it helps women to know why men behave the way they do at the workplace, sometimes bragging about what they can do and what women cant, sometimes covering up their mistakes and pointing that toward their women counterparts who may be far more efficient and so on.

With considerable experience, Mendell used her documented interviews with over a hundred male professionals, mostly company executives, to study in depth those male traits that women at the work place don’t realize they are dealing with because they probably never thought about that before. Whether we believe in gender differences complementing each other or that equality between sexes is the universal norm, it is a fact of truth, bittersweet as it may seem, that far more men dominate all streams of life and in every sphere of work related spheres. So if women don’t learn the game of finding out how men they think, they may lose the game altogether.

The book broadly discussed seven rules that men adapt to while playing sports some of which explains why there are such obvious differences in the way that men interact with men and how they tend to interact with women at the work place.

For men, Mendell reminds the reader, everything is like a game that comes with rules firmly in place, yet nothing is ever taken in a personal way. For women at the workplace, relationship building is vital as well as not hurting other people's sentiments in anyway so this means that the scorecard takes a backseat and work gets to be run by the men who are confident about the rules they have set. For example, Mendell reveals how an apology for a mistake by a woman can be construed by a man as sheer cover up or excuse for incompetence while if that came from a man, it just didn’t matter at all. Another point she makes is that if you enter into a verbal fight that goes haywire with your male colleagues, as a woman, you tend to feel completely shaken while for men turning verbal with each other, it might be a shouting session but at the end of it, they slap each other on the backs and go out for drinks together. A woman’s response at the workplace is so different in every way. So for a woman to succeed at the workplace, it is a matter of following the game of men's rules, keep aside the heart. Read more about the book here.